By Alvin Agaba
You have been jilted by your spouse, partner, workmates, and friends or even never felt loved by your mother or father.
You were left feeling betrayed and alone. After all this, you might think the wounds of rejection can never heal; but I am here to help you change your perception.
Let us seek to use rejection as a powerful tool to help us discover our true and complete identity.
This is based on a variety of healthy and holistic influences and an understanding that we are unique.
We can move healthily processing the sting of rejection and turn the initial pain into strength to become a better version of ourselves.
Rejection makes us feel like we are not good enough no matter what we do to impress the people we care about.
We all know rejection tingles; it causes us to question ourselves and doubt our future.
However, it should not drive us into depression or hate ourselves just because we are trying to prove to the world that we are worthy of being loved and accepted.
How can we see rejection in a more positive way and how can it build our lives?
Rejection leads us to fail and eventually become failures.
Then comes a thought of suicidal attempts; when one starts thinking that it is better to be dead than deal with another moment of rejection in their lives.
We need to have hope, purpose and help each other realise that the rejection that we experienced was to protect us from a future that was not best for us.
Or maybe there is a career out there that is much better than what we envisioned.
It helps us pray, meditate and build the life we want. We should view rejection as protection from something or someone that is not meant to be in our lives anymore.
I imagine what would happen if we stopped seeing rejection as a negative humiliating force and start viewing it as a necessary development tool and catalyst for success.
Many people have gone through countless number of rejections. But each of those helped them to get better.
Instead of crying, analyze those moments and reframe them as protection or projection.
You can find treasure beneath your pain and unfortunate circumstances to unlock new paths in life that are far beyond what you can think or imagine.
Jesus Christ was the most rejected person in history. The good news is that His rejection is a consolation and hope to us.
Mark 6:4: “A prophet is not without honor, except in his hometown and among his relatives and in his own household.”
He was rejected in His own home town but to this day, He is the greatest man in history.
In John 15:18-19, Jesus says: “If the world hates you, know that it hated me before it hated you.
“If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.”
When you travel to another country, you are not treated the same way as the citizens of that country.
In relation to the above scripture, we are not citizens of the world. So, we are bound to face rejection and we must deal with it positively.
Hope in God
Jeremiah 30:17: “For I will restore health to you and your wounds I will heal; declares the Lord, because they called you an outcast.”
Only God can heal wounds of any kind, not alcohol or suicide. Jesus Christ was rejected on Earth, but when He ascended into Heaven, He left us with the comforter (the Holy Spirit).
The Holy Spirit helps us make an understanding of whatever rejection we go through.
When we start seeing rejection as a tool of protection, there will be a whole new level of understanding and of compassion towards others that are facing the same challenge.
Through the Holy Spirit, God equips and qualifies us with this kind of strength to help people.
God loves us, that even when we are rejected by everyone, He is with us all the time. You are never alone.
In conclusion, take the stones people throw at you and use them to build a monument.
Alvin is an inspirational writer.